NSKL Workshop Perfectionism Isn't Kind
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About the Event
As a leader, are you often frustrated and unhappy when others’ performance doesn’t live up to your expectations? Are you angry with team members when they inevitably make a mistake? Do you fear that your reputation will be tarnished if those who report to you don’t do their work perfectly? As a person, do you beat yourself up when you can’t grasp something new immediately? Do you have anxiety about not performing as well in your job as you think you should? Do you disparage yourself constantly for not achieving more? Do you suffer from Imposter Syndrome? If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, then you’ve experienced the unkind, negative effects that perfectionism has on you and others.
What you will learn:
In this New School for Kind Leaders (NSKL) Workshop, we’ll look at the fractal nature of perfectionism (self-oriented, other-oriented and socially-prescribed), what the negative effects are for self, others and society, and learn and practice specific techniques and activities you can use on a daily basis to overcome perfectionist tendencies. No one is perfect – or needs to be. As a Kind Leader, when you focus on reducing perfectionist tendencies in yourself and others, you model kinder ways to act, react and interact at work, at home and in the world.
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By the end of the workshop, you will have practiced:
• Noticing your own perfectionist behaviors and its effects
• Choosing kinder thoughts and words to reduce perfectionism
• How to reflect on and react to fear of failure and societal pressures to be perfect
Benefits of taking this workshop:
You don't need to be in leadership role or have a leadership title to be a leader. By participating in this workshop, everyone will increase their awareness of the perfectionist tendencies in ourselves and others and learn and practice specific behaviors and techniques to use immediately to reduce the negative effects of perfectionism in self, others and society.
Workshop Learning Topics:
Part 1: Why Perfectionism Isn’t Kind
1. Introductory Activity: Participants will write and draw about their own experience with the three types of perfectionism:
• Self-Oriented – of yourself
• Other-Oriented – of others
• Socially Prescribed – people feeling pressure to meet perceived external pressure
2. Theoretical description of the three types of perfectionism and their fractal quality
3. Discussion of the negative effects of perfectionism
Part 2: Reducing/Eliminating Perfectionism with Kind Leader Practices
1. Reflection Exercise: Notice your own behavior at each fractal level
2. Think Kindly (Self-Oriented Focus)
- Activity: Create your personal Self-Compassion Mantra
3. Speak Kindly (Other-Oriented Focus)
- Activity: Choosing your words kindly (denotative, connotative meanings) to reduce focus on perfectionism and competition in self-talk and conversations with others
4. Act Kindly (Societal Focus) - Dealing with Expectations Kindly
- Activity: Depersonalizing societal messages and expectations
- Kind Leader Practice Tips: Closing the expectation gap kindly by focusing on collaboration and cooperation, not competition
5. Kind Closing and Next Steps
Amy Mervak and Karyn Ross
Have questions or need more information?
Please contact Karyn Ross at firstname.lastname@example.org or Amy Mervak at email@example.com
We're here to help you become confident and comfortable leading with kindness and are happy to answer any and all questions so that you can get started!
Everyone is welcome at The New School for Kind Leaders. We practice Right-Sized Pricing, which means that no one will ever be turned away based on financial circumstance. We ask that you make a Tuition Contribution that is comfortable and affordable for you. Suggested Tuition Contributions can be:
• Working individual (Company paying): $100.00
• Working individual (Paying personally): $50.00
• Not working: $25.00
If you are able, we also encourage you to add a Pay-It-Forward Tuition Contribution to help offset costs for others who would like to attend and are in less fortunate financial circumstances.
We are thankful and grateful for all Tuition Contributions!